Monday, 24 January 2011

Complimentary therapy

Women receive more compliments than men. Does that statement ring true? When considering compliments about the way I look, it certainly rings true for me. When talking things physical, it really is better – more rewarding - to give than receive.

In my fifty-six years I've received one compliment regarding my physicalitynessitude:
February 19th 2004, 2:17pm, “You have nice eyes.” The charming young lady who uttered those kind words looked up from the photograph of me, back at the photo, back to me, the photo, me, photo, me, photo, then said, “And they say the camera never lies?”

Before you reach for your hanky to dab away those tears of pity, I have been complimented many times on other aspects. Here's one that really got to the heart of the matter:
There are days when even a pleasantly-plump bloke with greying hair and beard feels good about himself. A few years ago, I ran a telemarketing company (yes, yes, I do penance every day) 'manned' mostly by women, when such a day dawned. New shoes, new trousers, new shirt, my normally independently-minded hair was cooperating, and, my scales had informed me that I was a pound lighter than the previous day. I felt good. Striding confidently about the vast telesales floor I fancied I cut quite the dashing figure.
A young – mid twenties – attractive young operator came scuttling up to me. “I love working here,” she proclaimed.
“Happy to hear that,” said I.
“It's just like working for Father Christmas,” she gushed.

I'll leave you to imagine the fixed smile on my face as I thanked her.

There is one compliment I can never get enough of and am still glowing from as I type: my twelve year old daughter, unceremoniously plonking herself on my lap, curling up, sighing and saying, “I love you, daddy.”

It doesn't get much better than that.


  1. Beware!

    Except for your daughter's compliment, of course. Cherish it. Daughters occasionally change their minds too.

  2. Well, as you so graciously complimented me on my Christmas post, I shall return it.

    You have a lovely twinkle in your eye when you smile.

    And I don't think you look like Father Christmas at all. You're too young at 56.

  3. Yes, all very nice, but have you been told that your head is perfectly proportional to your body? Because THAT, my friend, is a compliment.



  4. Hi Gary. Popped over here from the LG Report. Nice to meet you and nice post. Funny, the comments we remember... You seem to have a nice treasure to choose from! Each valuable in its own way.

  5. Hi, Gary,

    Found you from your comment on Rachelle's post about the rude email she got. Loved your vignette - such a wry sense of humor.

    Your twelve year old daughter has good taste. That comment is the keeper in the bunch.

  6. I know where you're coming from. Our kids--at least when they're young--can be a great ego booster. Sometimes I feel a bit of abashment by compliments and even wonder how sincere they are. The blogging community can often be very complimentary--maybe it's easier to compliment someone you don't know, never see, and essentially lives in an imaginary world delivered by the internet.

    Tossing It Out and the Blogging From A to Z April Challenge 2011